Most long-term relationships start suffering in bed after a certain amount of time. This happens to everyone – you simply get to know your partner and you get into “a comfort zone” where you both do the same things over and over. On top of that, you get to know each other so well in bed that nothing seems new and exciting.
Even though this might work for some time, it’s crucial to spice things up and do something new. Sex is a big part of a relationship and if it becomes boring and unsatisfying, your whole relationship will suffer. Luckily, there are many different ways that you can make things more interesting and make your sex hot again.
Today we’re going to give you some great tips that can easily turn things around.
Don’t let yourself be distracted
During the starting stage of a relationship everything is new and exciting, including the sex. You simply can’t take your eyes and focus of each other. However, the more time passes, the more you are focused on other things, as you get used to being around each other. Then you go into the “watching TV shows” mode, and you constantly have the TV on, or your mobile in your hands.
All these things might be the reason you are falling asleep during and before sex. Even though technology is good, it takes away your attention and you can’t focus on your partner. Turn off the TV, put your phone on the silent mode and the cockblocking will end. Only then can you really get into it and see what your partner is doing and have more inspiration to do something interesting yourself.
Bring in the sexy lingerie
A lot of women don’t like lingerie and let’s face it, it’s uncomfortable and impractical, but there’s just something about it that makes guys go crazy. Lingerie is sexy to guys and it instantly reignites the flames. On the other hand, depending on your partner’s preferences, you can wear whatever pushes their button, it really doesn’t matter. The point is to make an effort to get them going.
No matter if we are talking about different bras, long socks, short skirts, or if you don’t have any, you can get some sexy items that will make things hotter in the bedroom. Just think about it this way, if putting something on will grab your partner’s attention and make them stay in bed longer, then do it.
Do some role-playing
Getting into character and acting is not only for people from Hollywood. Are you a sexy nurse, a handyman, or an angry boss? Whatever keeps things interesting goes. Put on a wig, get a costume or simply act like someone else. You might feel funny at first if you’ve never done this before and your partner might be surprised but, when you try it out, you will see that it works even for shy people.
The idea is to be creative and spark imagination. There is no better way to make things more interesting than acting like someone else. In the end, this is a perfect excuse to try out something new when sex starts and do things you never did before and experiment in bed. That’s how you spice things up.
Experiment in bed
One of the reasons why things get so boring is because you both get to know each other really well in bed and you do the same things over and over. Make a conscious effort to do something new. Talk with your friends and see what they like to do, or talk with your partner about the things that you would like to try out.
If not, simply surprise your partner with something new. Get some help online and see how to do new things and bring them into your bed. At the same time, surprise your partner with spontaneous sex and don’t let it become a planned thing. Add some suspense to the act and don’t make it predictable.
In the end, think about your partner sexually apart from the moments when you are actually having sex. Do some naughty texting and build up the situation. Remember, it’s not only about the intercourse – foreplay is also important and it comes in many forms.