loving your neighbor as yourself

“Messy Sunday” and the least of these in La Jolla
by Jared Enyart:
Two years ago my wife and I made a commitment to stop going to church and to start being the church. We clung to “love God with all of [y]our heart, ... and love [y]our neighbor[s] as [y]ourselves.” After getting to know some incredible neighbors (the incredible Muslim family for one) we hadn’t met because we were so preoccupied going to this and that (“church”) event, what surprised us was some of our most open and receptive neighbors were the homeless neighbors living in the canyon 200 yards away from us. We began intentionally taking time to learn their names, stories, and love them; convinced that this was where Jesus would be working (interacting with those on the margins of society, who won’t “fit” in our homogeneous churches) if he were here today.
We decided to be more intentional and asked if they’d like to gather consistently each week (as opposed to randomly here and there) for fellowship and food. They resoundingly and delightedly affirmed. What initially was to be coffee and donuts was immediately “kicked up a notch” (by my wife) with a camp stove and multiple courses. Non-Christian friends have been inspired and frequently expand our circle each week. Currently we break bread (eat breakfast), enjoy fellowship (share about our weeks: needs, answers to prayers, struggles), pray together, and read Scripture together.
We recently attempted to name our gathering “Messy Sunday” (thus we came up with twitter.com/messysunday) after a popular dessert (the messy sundae) at a local pizzeria. We liked the adjective “messy” because it brilliantly captured our group. Our relationships are often messy, the issues facing the homeless population are messy, etc. I often describe a weekly gathering to a friend involved in another area of ministry — for example a regular who strolled up inebriated and was teaching my 3-year-old to throw sand at kids in the playground — and they often respond, “It sounds messy.” And it is. Life is. I think it’s far too easy to “go to church” and experience this put together performance that is polished and feels good and is entertaining, yet [can often] leaves one lacking for a genuine interaction with the fellowship of Jesus and God’s heart of justice for the least of these.
We are affiliated with the Ecclesia Collective here in San Diego (www.ecclesiacollective.org) which we describe as an eclectic grassroots expression of the Kingdom of God in the greater San Diego area.
Read a testimonial about the Enyarts work: “Thank you God for helping the Enyarts make us feel human again”
Read an article about the recent Messy Sunday Holiday Open House: “All you need is love”
Follow them on twitter at @messysunday
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I totally get what you are doing with your Church Community and believe it is a wonderful ministry. But, in a way, aren’t you marginalizing “main stream” Christians? Shouldn’t the Church be a blend of all of God’s Children? I would encourage you to reach out and invite other Christians who a members of traditional Churches to share the experience of Church the way your community does it.
We know from Christ’s teachings that we must be willing to give up anything that stands between us and God that stands between us and our fellow man. Christians who are prosperous should share that prosperity with others in need. Those in need must be willing to sacrifice their control over their lives as well. We all must trust God and turn to him when making choices about our addictions (whether it is material things or destructive behavior).
May God bless your Church and the work you are doing.
May I suggest that you not allow the characterizations of your middle-class Christian friends to become the name of your group? It might be more dignified for the group to name itself organically. It’s our (middle-class) classifications of them that contribute to powerfully to their (social) marginalization in the first place.
Just my opinion.
Larry: Nice comments. I agree we should embrace unity and demand sanctity for the poor as well as rich. Just a point of emphasis, however, to answer your question, the difference between the middle class and the homeless is that the middle class is called to give sacrificially. “There will always be poor people in the land. Therefore I command you to be openhanded toward those of your people who are poor and needy in your land.” I think we need to go out of our way to make the poor at home in our churches.
Sounds to me like you have come closer to capturine the true spirit of Jesus that anyother attempt I have knowledge of or have read about. Thanks
T.C. All people are called to give sacrificially, including the poor, just as the widow’s mite story reveals (Mark 12). The glory of God is found when all people are satisfied in Him alone for all things and so share all that they have so no one is with need. In order to do this we need those with more so they can give to those with less.
Also, was just wondering if anyone noticed that this is still ‘church’ in the sense that they meet on a weekly basis as an organized group and even have a name. It seems that organization is necessary to move forward on mission – no matter how ungodly or absolutely genuine the mission is.
Church is really best seen when there are no racial or socio-economic boundaries, but that all are welcome and embracing each other and Jesus together while seeking the lost and marginalized.
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Thanks so much for this brief but inspiring story about “churching.” What you are doing is EXACTLY what calls to be as a Christian as well.